First Date Conversations
OK, so you have managed to get your crush to agree to go on a date with you. And you’ve booked a table at that nice restaurant. But then you are sitting at the restaurant, looking at the menu, and you are both silent. You don’t know what to say! First date conversations can be difficult. You need to be careful not to offend of turn off your crush, but you also want to find out about them. Here’s an great guide on everything you need to know!
First date conversation 1
At the beginning of the date, keep it simple and start with ‘Today Questions’. You could ask your date: what have you been up to today? Did it take you long to get here? How was the weather in your area? Remember: don’t bombard your crush with questions, but see if these simple non-invasive questions lead to a topic of conversation you can chat about.
First date conversation 2
Now you’ve broken the ice, you can begin to talk about things which show a little more about what you and your crush as like. Discuss sports, films, music, TV, books, travel, art. These common interest questions will allow you to determine whether you have similar hobbies as your crush. You could say “So, what was the last film you saw at the cinema?” Or, “Do you often go to concerts or music festivals?” Or how about, “What kind of books do you like to read?”
First date conversation 3
By now, you should be able to judge whether you and date are getting on well or not. You can delve a bit deeper by asking them slightly more personal questions. You could ask “Do you enjoy your job/study course?” This is an open ended question which allows you to understand more about your crush. You might ask about their living situations, whether they like the neighbourhood they live in, or where they went to school. All of these topics of conversation are great for finding out more detail about your crush and their personality.
First date conversation 4
If you feel that you are really connecting well with your crush, then you could ask them about their hopes, dreams and aspirations for the future. This will really give you a good insight into how your crush sees him/herself and you will get a good idea of whether you are compatible in a relationship.