How To Have Sex On A First Date

When preparing to go on that important first date, it may very well cross your mind that you could be ending the night by having sex with your crush. This is one of the primary reasons people get nervous on dates. There is a lot of pressure on both of you, and your expectations and beliefs. So, we’ve got some tips for you on how to successfully have sex on a first date.

1. Don’t expect sex.

It’s quite likely that your partner will NOT want to have sex on the first date. So wipe that expectation from your mind, and you can relax and get on with enjoying to get to know your crush as person, rather than constantly thinking about what they are like naked.

2. Read the signals.

If you think your date might be interested in continuing the date back at your/their house, then you could ask a leading question such as “Do you fancy coming back to my house for a coffee?” This is an international phrase widely recognised to really mean “I’d quite like to have sex with you – do you want to come back to my house?”

3. Take it slow.

Even if your crush has ended up back at your house, this does not necessarily mean that s/he wants to sleep with you. Start with mall steps. A few kisses, building to some passionate kissing will indicate if maybe your date wants to pursue this further. At this point, ask yourself if you really, REALLY, want to have sex too. If you are drunk, you should probably hold off until you can make a better judgement.

4. Make your intentions clear.

So, you’re on the sofa, kissing passionately and you want to move to the next level. You could ask your date “Shall we take this to the bedroom?” and gauge their response.

5. Relax.

Don’t rush into anything. Spend as long as you both need or want on foreplay. Use protection – your date will be relieved when you suggest using a condom, and they will respect you more as well.

6. Do what feels right.

Sex with a new person can be very different to what you may have experienced before. Remember that sex is supposed to be fun and enjoyable. Take the pressure off of both of you by taking the lead and focussing on enjoyment.