Self Confidence Building Trick # 1: Exercise and eat healthily.

If you keep up regular exercise, your endorphins will be racing round your body making you feel good. Plus, if you’re feeling fitter, you’re probably looking fitter too!

Self Confidence Building Trick # 2: Practice good posture.

Standing up straight and sitting up straight can work a small miracle. At work or college it’ll make you look more interested in what you’re doing, and exudes confidence.

Self Confidence Building Trick # 3: Get interested in stuff.

Instead of moping about thinking about how you’ve not got the perfect job or relationship, or how you wish you were rich, get involved and interested in something. It might be a book, or music, a new hobby. Anything! Read a newspaper every day, cook fresh food, learn a language. Fill your time!

Self Confidence Building Trick # 4: Realise the positives of being quiet.

If everyone was meant to be loud and brash, the world would be an uncomfortable place. Being a bit more shy shows that you are sensitive and thoughtful. Often loud people can come across as obnoxious, and you certainly don’t want that.

Self Confidence Building Trick # 5: Get used to being yourself.

Think of your good points – things you’re good at and personality traits you have which are positive. And then think of the negative ones. Accept them. Make the best out of them. Appreciate who you are, and work with it!

Tip # 1 Be honest with yourself.

Write down a realistic evaluation of yourself. Do this by yourself, and do it honestly. Write down all your good points. Write down all your bad points. Write down what you want to improve. Become aware of how you treat others, and ask yourself whether you deserve what you get from other people.

Tip # 2 Let go of the negativity about yourself.

Realise that everyone has their good points and bad points. Stop feeling that you are not worthy of love because you have made some mistakes or have some negative traits. If you see yourself as a greedy, jealous, envious or lazy person, then congratulations. You’ve admitted it to yourself. Now, if you really want to change those traits, you can.

Tip # 3 Concentrate on your good points.

Whenever you feel bad about something, stop that thought. Hold it. Now, consciously change it to thinking something positive. Keep a list of your positive traits, or things you appreciate about yourself. Maybe you’re a good listener, or are good at mental arithmetic. Even the tiniest things – maybe you painted your nails well, or finished reading that book – can change your perspective. Focus on the positive.

Tip # 4 Keep a diary

Write down everything you feel. It’s a release. Writing is very therapeutic and allows you to be honest with yourself. Keep your diary private and write in it as often as you need to. Write the good, the bad and the in between stuff. Write funny quotes, inspiring words, draw pictures, stick in photos or clippings from magazines or newspapers which make you smile or think. Remember: you’ve only got this very moment once, so make the most of it.
 

1. Realise your strengths.

You have them! You have lots. However big or small, make a list of everything that you’re good at. When you realise how may skills you have, you confidence will already be boosted! Stick that list of strengths somewhere where you can look at it every day.

2. Embrace your weaknesses.

Everyone has weaknesses. Work out what yours are. Some are not necessarily weaknesses. Being quiet, shy, emotive or sensitive are very positive qualities to some degree and can be very endearing in the right circumstances.

3. List what you want to change.

We all want to improve certain aspects of our lives. Work out what you want to change on every scale. You can start work on some changes instantly – like finding a dance class to join, or trying talking to people more. Other aspects might take longer to improve, such as earning more money or becoming successful in your dream career. For these, work out small steps that you can follow each day to work towards your goal.

4. Take positive steps.

Do something every day which works towards one or more of your goals. You’ll feel productive and know that you are working on improving yourself!

5. Remind yourself regularly.

Keep stock of all these tips. Regularly recap on your strengths, weaknesses and goals. By staying focussed, you will ensure that you achieve!

6. Celebrate your accomplishments.

You will start to complete your goals and it will feel great! Celebrate! Tell your close friends, and revel in the glory of achieving something. It’ll spur you on to realize more of your dreams.

7. Set yourself more targets!

Rinse and repeat! Just keep on going with setting yourself more and more targets. Your confidence will soar, and you will become the person you want to be!
 

Being a confident and self assured person affects many areas of your life. You probably want to be confident in your work, within your friendship groups, amongst your family, and within whatever pastimes you indulge. Being confident gets you somewhere, for sure. Top athletes are confident in their sport; successful leaders are confident in their decisions; social butterflies are confident in their conversation and mannerisms. We see it everywhere, but how can you build your confidence? Read on for our top tips.

1. Focus on your strengths.

What are you good at? Find out, and pledge to make this an area that you are confident in. Whatever your strength is, you can endeavor to become an expert in that area. This might involve taking on an extra role at work, or setting up something within the community.

2. Become known for your abilities.

When you know what your strength is, do all you can to become renowned for being an expert in that topic. Again, this can apply to almost anything. Arrange a work excursion or get involved with a local college or school, help out at a specialist group, or offer your services as written information online. Once you become known for your expertise in that area, people will start to respect you.

3. Be sure of yourself.

Even when you are confident in your chosen area, you still may not feel completely confident. Let’s say you’re about to walk into a social situation. Take a deep breath, make sure you feel as best as you can about how you look, and enter the room. If you don’t immediately recognize anyone to talk to, then admire the décor or food, or immerse yourself in doing something. When you do see someone you know, make some light small talk or compliment them on something. The trick is to keep smiling, know what you’re good at, and take your time.

4. The opposite works too.

Unfortunately all these tips for building confidence, also work in reverse. If you become known for a bad trait, that is what people will think of when they see you, so avoid having anything negative being associated with you. Reputations stick, so create a positive one for yourself and you’ll be streets ahead.

5. Confidence isn’t about being loud.

Confidence is being comfortable with yourself. You don’t have to be loud, chatty, obnoxious, or have a packed social to be confidence. In fact, if you have none of those things and are still confident within yourself, you’re a real winner.

Some people seem born with confidence. Others seem to have none. And then there is everyone else in between. Wherever you’re at, it’s likely that you could probably do with a little bit more self-confidence. Unless you’re at the top end of the spectrum, there will always be times where you don’t feel entirely self-assured. But how do you go about building self confidence? It certainly isn’t something that happens over night, but with a few simple tips and tricks you can get started right now…

Tip # 1. Recognise where you lack confidence.

Maybe it’s speaking in public. Perhaps it is to do with how you look. It could be around certain group of people. Work out when you feel unconfident. Write it down. Now think about where and when you DO feel confident. What is he difference between these places or situations? Work out what it is that makes you FEEL unconfident.

Tip # 2. Identify your successes.

We all have them. What are your good points? Think about every single aspect of your life, and write down any positives you can think of. It might be your punctuality, or how you are kind to strangers, or that you’re good at painting, or can cook a great Chinese dish. However small, write down your good points, and write down all the things you have done successfully. Have you finished college? Did you pass your driving test? Are you keen to work? Have you ever helped anyone or got involved in your community?

Tip # 3. Be appreciative for what you do have.

Even when it seems like we have nothing, you can be sure that you’ve got more than someone else. Many people in the world do not even have access to clean drinking water, or their own private space. Again, make a list of everything you have to be grateful for. Look at it. Realise that things could be much worse.

Tip # 4. Listen and believe when someone compliments you.

If someone takes the time to compliment on you on something, don’t brush it aside saying “Yeah, right!” Believe it! Hell, even write it down and remember it!

Tip # 5. Focus on your goals.

Make a list of goals. Organise it into immediate goals, medium term goals and long term goals. Make sure that every day you are doing something to work towards these goals When you can tick it off a list every single day, you can see that you are progressing. This will improve your self confidence significantly. When you can see that you are actively doing something to improve your life and get to where you want to be, you will be a happy person!